Picture this. You are a mother who had just recently given birth. You are still healing from your childbirth, so you lie and get comfortable in bed. Not even 10 minutes later, you start hearing cries coming from the other room. You wish there is someone else who could tend to that little one, but you recognise those cries. It’s the hungry cry and you are the only person carrying their milk. So you drag yourself out of bed to feed them. The cries subdue but do not seem like it’d ever stop. Soon enough, you are not sure whose cries are louder – your baby’s or yours. Unfortunately, this scenario is beyond familiar for many new mothers.
As a soon-to-be or new mommy, what do you need the most? Many of you might agree, in unison, that you could never get enough ‘break’. Although rarely talked about, getting little to no rest is highly common among new mothers. In order to get ample rest and recover well, you can get a confinement lady! Not sure where to start? We’ll break down the steps for you!
Start planning your confinement months before your EDD, or even when you and your partner are planning to conceive. Why? Because a good confinement lady’s service always gets booked up fast. If you expect another person to set one month of their year aside to serve you, you have to book them as early as possible. Consulting an agency would be highly in your favour if you are one to make last minute decisions. However, booking at the very last minute also may cause the rate to spike up. If you can, plan the conception date so that your EDD would not fall during the holiday season. Keep in mind that a confinement nanny’s service rate during the holidays can go up to double their original price.
Observe your circumstances
Know that if you plan to get a live-in nanny, no matter for how long, you have to house her. This means beyond just providing physical space. You have to calculate and be able to afford the cost of having another adult living with you for about a month. That means daily meals, utility cost, and others. Getting a live-out nanny does not necessarily mean you are spared from having to pay the extra cost. In actuality, if you are getting a confinement nanny who is not local or lives far, you may have to pay more for her stay somewhere near your place.
Compare prices to your budget
The best way to go over this is by browsing through related forums to find competitive prices. However, such information can be outdated. After all, parents have gone way back when it comes to posting and sharing such information online. As long as you can keep track of the posting dates, you should be able to at least get the most current estimation of the price you are going to have to pay. Additionally, it is also wise to drop a question or two for other parents and couples in those forums. This way, you could get a direct and crystal clear answer.
Freelancer vs Agency
You may already have a list of freelance confinement nannies recommended by your family members, peers, or relatives. However, going merely by recommendations can be tricky. No two people can have the same experience with the same confinement lady. In fact, it can be the total opposite. To give you an example, Mother A may think nanny A is serving her well because she did not require as much assistance after delivery and only wanted a chef to prepare confinement meals. Mother A proceeds to introduce nanny A to mother B who needs a helping hand that can give more than food. As you may expect, mother B does not find nanny A to be able to tend to all her needs. This is why it is important for you to be clear about what you want in your confinement nanny. Then, you can go through the candidates one by one and judge for yourself.
The rate for a freelance confinement nanny is often negotiable. However, it is common for freelancers to not have regulated rules and guidelines. Where you negotiate prices, they may negotiate the job scope. Not to mention, if you are getting a confinement nanny from neighbouring countries, you may need to settle the matters regarding their work permit.
Getting a confinement lady from an agency is easier because a lot of things are guaranteed, like their arrival after your delivery and replacement. If you wish to get one from an agency, rank or categorise them according to the aspects that matter the most to you so it is easier for you to weigh the options. Shortlist them until it comes down to about three top agencies. After that, you can ring up these places one by one and get the most information possible. That said, make sure to list down your questions BEFORE you begin calling up any places. You can then make a better and more standardised comparison. If you aren’t really sure how to begin, create a comparison table! Here’s an example of what you can create:
|AspectAgency||Agency A||Agency B||Agency B|
|Nanny Services Available|
|Price rate per month|
|Nanny’s job scope|
|Additional perks in the package|
Once you have figured these out, you’re good to go! Ready to find confinement nanny that will make your confinement period less stressful and hassle-free? Reach out to us at PEM so we can help and guide you better!