Congratulations on the birth of your newborn! In the beginning, the entire family is excited about the new member of the family. However, both you and your partner will soon realize that the newborn takes a lot of work.
Regardless of how good your bond was before the arrival of the baby, this new parenting venture can rock even the strongest of marriages. The reason is that everything changes. All your time, attention and love is focused on your child and feelings for your partner are ignored at the moment. Days are busy with changing diapers, doing laundry and chores while nights are characterized by several feedings and mornings begin quite early. Your conversations now revolve around spit-up and whose turn is it for staying up in the night.
So how can couples adapt to new demands while still create tome to reconnect as wife and husband? Below are four simple steps new parents can take to create time for each other despite the arrival of a newborn.
Real date night or movie
Are dinner and movies a distant recollection now that the baby is in the picture? A sure way to reconnect with your spouse is to go out for an old-fashioned date or movie. After all, no dishes will be filling up the sink at the end of the night. New parents can still prioritize date nights. To do this, you can hire a confinement nanny to do the babysitting while you go out on the date. An experienced confinement lady can change the diaper and feed the baby while both of you are away. Scheduling weekly dates provide new parents with the opportunity to enjoy each other’s company uninterrupted. This special time together turns out to be therapeutic and affords you the chance to talk about various other things instead of diapers.
Right in the home
If the cost of hiring a sitter is an issue, you can still organize a date night right at home. Bath and feed the baby before putting her down to sleep. Once the baby is asleep, use an hour or so to catch up with your spouse. Don’t collapse on the sofa and switch on the TV or start washing the dishes. Sit together and talk face to face. Usually, new parents fail even to make eye contact when talking to each other. By creating time to spend together, both of you will feel in touch and reconnected. You might even end up having sex which is good.
Enjoy the weekends
Pack the diaper bag with necessary supplies; put your child in the stroller, and visit shopping malls or parks as a family during the weekends. Meanwhile, avoid criticizing each other. The baby is a new thing in both of your lives. While trying to figure out the best parenting methods, always praise and show support to your partner than being quick to show criticism. Positive talk is very vital for reconnecting and nurturing as wife and husband.
Take a walk
Babies take several naps during the day. You can turn one of these nap sessions into a leisure walk for you and your spouse. The outside air is good for the toddler while she is sleeping in the backpack while you and your spouse can enjoy the walk and talk about various things in your lives. Try to avoid talking about the child. If you must, talk about non-controversial topics like how beautiful she is, not who didn’t wake up to check on the baby last night.
The reason for going out is to get away from the child-rearing atmosphere of the home. Make sure the immediate surrounding is serene, as you don’t want to wake up the child.
It’s easy for you and your partner to become too much engaged in the parenting of your newborn and forget to work on your relationship. Make sure to create at least some special time with your partner to reconnect. Keep in mind, a happy parent equals a happy marriage and a cheerful child.