When you realize you are pregnant, the chances are that you have made Google your best friend. You research on all things pregnancy and the experience of child birth. Some of the stories you come across are cool, yet others are quite horrifying, but you brush them off. “These are things that can never happen to me.” You comfort yourself. After all, you have done all the reading you can lay your hands on, done all the recommended exercises in preparation for child birth and even started your antenatal clinics.
You even join all the clubs for new mums in Singapore and your social networks. With all the information you read and get exposed to in these platforms, you are ready to go. In fact, you are just waiting for the time to check into the hospital and meet your cute little angel. However, the truth is that nothing can prepare you for what lies ahead. No one tells you some of the experiences you are about to have since every delivery is unique.
Here are some of the experiences no one will tell you about;
It can be hard to get pregnant
Most couples after marriage may take some time to enjoy their honeymoon before trying for kids. However, when the time comes to try for them, they realize it is not as easy as they learned during biology lessons. They spend quite some years trying to get pregnant, and the pressure weighs them down. However, you should never stop trying! When it finally happens, you will be on cloud nine.
It’s a messy and tiresome journey
The prenatal period is quite long and draining. They tell you it is the best time of your life but in truth, as the pregnancy progresses, you realize quite the opposite. You battle with all sorts of discomfort, from morning sickness, wary hormones, backs pains, insomnia, the list is endless. No one had quite told you about these things.
The delivery process will not be as easy as what you have seen in the movies. Every woman has a different experience in childbirth, but the similarity is in that you will definitely experience pain you have never felt before. However, you will soon forget that pain immediately when you get to hold your little angel in your arms.
New-borns are not as pretty
When we meet babies of your friends or family, it is usually after a couple of weeks after birth. At this point, they all look sweet and adorable. However, do not be surprised that that is not what you will see when your baby is just delivered. They come out looking really messy due to all the fluids and blood and are very tiny and fragile as well. If you feel scared to hold the baby at first, do not doubt your maternal instincts. It is just normal, and the new-born will start to look better as they grow.
Once your baby comes, anxiety will be your middle name. You are going to worry about everything. If you once enjoyed a sound sleep, you will not, at least for some time. You will wake up to check on your baby even when your baby is soundly asleep. All sorts of questions will run through your mind on the well-being of your child. If the child does not attain a particular milestone like teething, you will be in a panic. It is normal for you to worry but do not let it weigh you down. Babies develop at different rates so just enjoy your motherhood.
You must have come across mothers talking about the wonderful experience of breastfeeding their babies. The truth is that some people do not find it as enjoyable as they make it to be. Immediately after giving birth, you probably expect yourself to have milk ready in your body, ready to breast feed immediately. The truth is that breast milk may take up to four days before it comes out. Once it does, the whole exercise of breastfeeding is not as easy as you thought. You will require the help of the nurse to help baby latch. Some mothers experience cracked nipples and breastfeeding becomes a painful experience for them. Talk to the nurses to train you until you can do it right before leaving the hospital.
Lochia is a virginal discharge that comes immediately after a woman gives birth. Once you give birth, you may think you will experience the usual bleeding, and that’s it. However, the bleeding may take longer than you think. No amount of maternity sanitary pads will be enough to keep you dry. You will require changing your sanitary pads frequently to manage the situation. When you think it has cleared, it may start all over again without even a warning. Therefore, in case you are planning to step outdoors, remember to carry sanitary wear or just put them on. It will save you the trouble.
Despite all these, there are still many women who embrace pregnancy and motherhood. This is where the magic lies in. No matter what upsetting experience you may face, in the end, it will all be worth it when you hold the little bundle of joy in your arms. The sight of your little one takes all the pain away. Pat yourself on the back and embrace motherhood with grace and gratitude. If it all seems too overwhelming for you, approach a confinement centre to find out how the nannies there will be of assistance to you in this period.