Picture a scenario where you are bathing your newborn. You are home alone, fully occupied with your little bundle of joy. Afterward, it is time to feed your other bundle of joy. The good news is, your kid(s) can be taken care of. But the question is, what about you? When can YOU take a calm, relaxing bath amidst all of these? There is no shame in admitting that you need as much assistance as you could receive, especially during your confinement period. Taking care of your baby while healing from your surgery wounds is not an easy task. It is perfectly fine to reach out for help. The question is, what kind of help?
A lot of mothers consider getting help with the house chores (laundry, cleaning up, and cooking for the family) and others require help with the baby. These help respectively come in the form of a domestic helper and a confinement nanny. Find out which one would you need more in your house!
Once a baby is born, a confinement nanny will pay one-to-one attention to the baby and you. They have received training prior to starting their work to learn how to specifically tend to a postnatal mother and their baby. They will handwash the baby’s clothes and bottles while also looking after you. Looking after you is beyond just checking up on how you are doing. It means preparing confinement meals and herbal bath, washing your clothes, doing a few chores around the house – basically ensuring your confinement a stress-free phase so you are able to heal from your recovery from childbirth. A confinement nanny’s duties may or may not include taking care of the condition of the house, and even if they do, it is not their main duties.
A domestic helper’s duties encompass almost everything in and outside the house. They would care about the people living in it as well as the condition of the house. They are expected to provide regular housekeeping services to everyone in the house and take care of the house condition. Among their everyday tasks include keeping the house clean (sweeping, mopping, tidying up, doing laundry, and cleaning dishes), running errands (buying groceries and picking up kids from school), providing care to the people in the house (babysitting and feeding a bedridden elderly).
Although their job scope may look restricted on paper, a confinement nanny is accountable for bigger things as their main purpose is ensuring that the baby and the new mother’s needs are catered to. This is why most moms want to get to know and be comfortable with a confinement nanny first before hiring them as they are going to be the next closest person to her newborn after her.
In turn, a confinement nanny will have the time to get to know the baby better in terms of their behavior, feeding and nap time, digestive process, and development – thus knowing how to handle the baby at all times. Whether you are first-time or experienced parents, a confinement nanny will always have something new to share. They will be the closest person who will guide you step-by-step in taking care of your newborn.
A domestic helper may have a bigger job scope, but they might not be knowledgeable or trained enough to perform all of the confinement nanny’s duties. As far as confinement duties are concerned, they can apply their housekeeping skills in handwashing the baby’s clothes and probably changing the diapers. They are responsible to prepare meals for everyone and keep the house mess-free. If you need to run any errands outside, they are usually fit to do it too.
Availability & Flexibility
Generally, your confinement nanny will stay with you throughout the whole month after birth. She has flexible timing and is available the whole time since they practically live in your house. If you prefer to have the confinement nanny during the day only, certain agencies provide daytime confinement nanny services as well. You can also get an extension of their service if you prefer so.
Their availability varies vastly depending on whether they live in your house or outside and whether they are working full-time, part-time, or freelance.
From their training and experience, a confinement nanny is trained to deal with the issues you might be dealing with with your newborn. They normally have basic knowledge of Chinese herbs and traditional medicine that is in line with Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) theories. Thus, they can provide appropriate suggestions and recommendations to moms in their recovery. A certified confinement nanny that comes from an agency would have gone through training that helps them understand the needs of a newborn and postnatal mom better.
Their knowledge is normally pretty restricted and encompasses household chores only. You can certainly depend on them to prepare any meals or clean any corner as their expertise would include those.
Attention to Baby
Your CL will be able to pay extra one-to-one attention to your baby. While it is quite a subjective matter, you can judge how close a person is to a baby by what they do for/with the baby and how the baby reacts to them. A lot of confinement nanny feels like they have formed a special bond with the baby and treats the baby as their own grandchild/child. This is completely up to your preference – whether you would mind your baby connecting with their caregiver (that is not you) or not.
Likewise, from a domestic helper’s point of view, they could not possibly focus solely on your baby and as a result, will not be able to report much to you regarding your baby’s development. This is mainly due to the much bigger job scope that they have compared to a confinement nanny.
Conclusion: Confinement Nanny or Domestic Helper?
For your confinement period, a confinement nanny would be a lot more helpful than a domestic helper. A domestic helper will lessen your burden regarding your household chores, but you might have other forms of postnatal needs during your recovery period. This is where a confinement nanny will make a better option. Talk to other mothers and ask around to get a good confinement nanny and learn how they went through their confinement period with the help of a confinement nanny.
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